Bad boys are bad for you.

  
 
     We are told over and over again that bad boys are bad news.
   

    Our parents told us countless of times and not only that, ancient folks warn their young's about this kind of situation. But why are we so drawn into bad boys.

    
    I remember my grand mother used to tell me, “be careful of the guys that you like, they will show you their best qualities but in the end, They just want to get inside your pants” and I was in grade school when she told me this so I was like,” what in the world is she talking about?"

    Do you remember that cute little book that our classmates used to carry around school, asking every single person to signed their autograph book, so they will know your secrete crush? I love that book…I still have mine by the way.....hahaha...
    I still remember my favorite part where they ask you, “what is your ideal man” the answer are always the same? We want tall dark and handsome, intelligent and caring. But deep inside, we all have a secrete crush on the most popular guy in school.

    They are not popular because they are kind, caring, nor intelligent, well for sure they are handsome. We are attracted to them because they are the campus jocks they play sports, they have lots of girlfriends, and break dozens of hearts, they are so cool they break rules, cut classes, and most importantly they have the most amazing hair ever. Omg! In short they are bad boys.

    Then we matured and we think we know better that we would never fall for a bad boy, but really can someone please tell me, do we really escape the idea of having a bad boy as a reference for a relationship?

    Let me tell you a situation as an example: let us say: Girl A: she's complaining that her boy friend is so quite, so predictable and always checking her out. Then she decides its time to break up, the relationship is not working.
   On the other hand, we have Girl B: "I am so heart broken my boy friend cheats on me and he treats me poorly and never give me the attention that I needed, but I can't break up with him....I love him so much I will die with out him"

    Well I think its pretty clear that the first example have a good boy by here side, but since the relationship is smooth sailing, she feels bored, and needs some time off. 
     While Girl number two is crystal clear of having a bad boy by her side but don’t want to let go…because she thinks its true love... helllooooooooooooooooo…… seriously?

    We rather have bad boys instead of  a good ones, why? Is it because of the Idea that we can change their ways, and we can train our man? Or is it because we love the dramas in life. We are addicted to the pain and we are drawn into the feeling of after a bad break up the high of being together again is so much better.

    Girls let me ask you this, Is it really happiness? Are we really happy that in very countless fights and break up the feeling of being together is priceless? Is it really happiness?

    I've been asking my self this over and over again. Do we really need to get hurt just to know that the love that we have is for real? Do we really need to cry? Do we really have to insist? 

    Isn't it love suppose to be happy and comfortable? I know there is no perfect relationship. There are trials, and challenges and it keeps the relationship stronger, as the wedding vows said: "for better or for worst". But seriously, if we are constantly hurting, is it still a part of the trials?


    Maybe the idea of a bad boy is so amazing, and turning them into a good boy is such an achievement, that we compromise and put them first before our needs and in the process we forget our selves just to make them happy.  

    In the end we should be responsible of our feelings. May be the euphoria is mind blowing, but just like any other addition the unexplainable feeling will stop and in the end it leave you miserable.

    We should learn how to stop and listen. Learn to love our self and demand for the respect that we need in the relationship. We are not born to be a door mat. We are humans... for crying out loud.....
    We are ladies and should be treated as one...


    So lovely ladies don’t settle for less… there is someone out there for us. There is more to life... Love is a gift from God. He will never give us someone who will hurt us.....

    I will leave you this question and ask your self:

    Life is short; do you really want to spend this life time with the person that is making you miserable?
Or spend a life time with some one who will hold your hand until the end...

    At the end of the day, this will all be memories, and nothing beats the feeling of being in love and to be loved in return.......

 

 

                                   Thank you Guy!!! enjoy!!! God bless!!!

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Fairy tales!

    When we were young we are told about fairy tales. While the princess patiently waits to be rescued by her prince, and fights the big cruel monster, then finally have her first kiss........

As the story goes " and they live happily ever after"

Drum rolls please…….

    In reality the first part of the story is true. When we were young you have this idea that when you grew older you will have a boyfriend and you will be so sweet. He would fetch you to school buys you lunch and, in return you will do his home work watch his basket ball games. Then you begin to smile and so excite to grow up and gets to high school were you can partially and legally have a boyfriend… hahahaha at least on my mind that’s how it works.

    Then the long wait is finally here. "High school". You were so excited to see what’s in there. Boy’s starts to notice you.You feel like a princess and the plus side of this  is you feel like you always have a personal assistant because during my days, boys who courts a girl they have to fetch them home everyday and carry their bag and books, but personally I let them to carry my books not my bag specially when I am using hand bag because girls please have some respect men shouldn’t carry hand bags it look awkward do you really want to walk beside a man carrying a hand bag…I think its weird, I feel like I'm walking with my sister.

    Then as time pass when you turn into your junior and senior years you become responsible for you action, because in high school our teen hormones is sky rocking then you begin to realize that your sit mate is pregnant or your school mate was rumored of having an abortion.

    You realize that this things are real and you need to be careful because there is nothing worst than to be look at so low, as my uncle used to tell me before, guys they like to challenge there self and after they are done with you they will see you as a trophy and tell other guys that I have her and I was playing all along and she fell for it." I'm the man" stupid man ego!I'm not say that all men are like that but let us not be hypocrites, They do that all the time.

    On the other hand girls like to play games too. I don’t know what satisfaction they get from this,but I think, they secretly wanted to be a collector as a hobby. Not with postal stamps or stickers like when were little but a collection of boy friends......well come to think of it, who will say no to a paid lunch, snack and dinner..hahaha...plus you get to watched movies..

    I am not judging or anything, but as the saying goes "coin has two faces".

    Then the university years. Where every thing is serious, at least I am. You rarely have a good time and chance to hang out with your high school buddies even if you wanted, its not the same as when you where in high school... Good times...

    As I was saying earlier although you have hard time. You begin to have a different perspective in life you are maturing then you think about your future and building your foundation in life

    Then here goes the part where you will meet your prince charming or so I thought. You begin to fall in love. You have your first date, first kiss and you feel like hey I can hold his hands forever......

    Hey kids don't even think that this is it!finally my happy ever after. because in fairly tales they forget to tell the part of the story where right after the first kiss, the price and princess starts to realize how different they are, and they start to kill each other and grab each others throats, I'm not dramatic but that’s reality. They only told you half of the story.

    They forgot to tell you about the heart ache the tears to be shed and the pain that it can cause you for loving so much. They intentionally forget to tell you that love is not always happy and the feeling of being so in love will pass and you will start asking silly questions like, what went wrong. Did I do something? What else is missing? then you start to call your friends asking the same silly question over and over again its like watching the same movie over and over again. then they will give you advices but as usual you will not listen. You will still do your thing, and go out with the same guy and end up hurting again...its insane, but here's where my all time favorite lines falls " I love him so much I can't help my self" and " he told me he loves me so we are back together again" hahhahaha...  Yup! I think the cruel monster on the fairly tales story sounds so much better right!

    Then you start to wonder. Where the hell is my fairy god mother? Actually kids on real life that’s your parents. Its just that we are too busy growing up that we ignore all the precautions. We fail to realize that they actually seen it all. We are just so stubborn to listen. How ironic.

    I am not saying that people should stop believing on fairy tales and stop believing in love.

I am just saying it’s not always what it seems. The story has two sides. Maybe it’s a different story for others, may be they are so lucky to skip all the dramas of it. They are so lucky to find their true prince right from the start. My out most respect for them, but for others. This is the scenario. Well I guess the story is not finish yet. So crossed our fingers girls there is still hope. Hahahhaha...

Guys this is just my idea and my random thoughts. Please be kind!!! Love you all!!!!GBU

MY FIRST!

 

Hi guys! This is my first time so be nice to me....

    I am not a writer as I've said on my profile but let me try to share to you my ideas and prospective in life. So bear with me and I hope someone out there who will read my future blogs finds it interesting. 
    
    I may write about my life, my job, or even my weirdest ideas but hey if you disagree with it. It’s fine. It’s just my thoughts everyone has its own opinion and insanity in life!

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